Complacency – It’s Not All That Its Cracked Up To Be

Are you in a place in life where you thought you would be? Are you happy? Is there somewhere you’d rather be or do instead? Complacency is a thing and it’s not all its cracked up to be. If you’re here, I’m right there with you!

In the end, we only regret the chances we didn’t take

Anonymous

I think many of us suppress our desires to do more because we are ‘okay’ with what we have. We are happy…enough. We come up with so many excuses to not do more but that just makes us lazy. Lazy or scared. I’m pretty sure I am both.

Previous Life

A few years ago I was content with life, or so I thought. I had a full time job making decent money, I was getting fit at a pretty exclusive gym, I had some awesome friends, and every couple of months I’d go on a trip. All in all, not too shabby!

I thought I was happy. But, looking back it felt like it was groundhog day where the same routine played out. I was miserable at work and I was lonely. I kept doing what I was doing though because I knew no other way. It was what it was. I was not content I was complacent with my life.

I woke up begrudgingly, walked to work with a sulk, made small talk with coworkers I didn’t really care to be around and, wished the day was over even though it only just started. Vacation was on my mind every day and I lived for the weekend. Apparently, I wanted out and I didn’t even know it.

If this sounds like you, welcome to the club.

New Way of Thinking

Complacency is man’s biggest weakness. It creeps upon us when we least expect it.

Jay Mullings

Meeting Bumblebae has opened my eyes to a whole different world. Being with someone who is motivated and who has goals in life and is always striving for a better self, its infectious. He told me of all his travels and living abroad and I was in awe. He told me his plans of retiring early and his dream of surfing for a year and being on a beach year round. This sounded amazeballs but far fetched (spoiler alert: it’s not and doesn’t have to be).

Seeing his vision for his life and his goals and plans really made me think about myself and what my life goals were?

Work and retire? Pretty much. But is spending 8 hours daily being miserable the way to go? Of course not.

When life isn’t so bad, there’s no need to be convinced to want to change it. This my friend, is complacency. I do not want to be complacent in life. I want my life to be great and I want to wake up every morning being thankful and excited to start the day? Working until retirement in a job I don’t like just because it pays the bills is not what I want.

Book Challenge

If you’re feeling complacent and are looking for a change, I challenge you to read a few books that I highly recommend:

1. The Crossroads of Should and Must by Elle Luna

In this book, Luna describes the difference between Should-choosing to live our lives for someone other than ourselves and Must- being our authentic self and cultivation our full potential self. There is a hard reality to this difference. A reality that people don’t want to face because it could mean a lot of hard work with not a lot of reward to begin with. But the reward is that we fulfil our deepest passion, urges and desires. Choosing a life of ‘should’ is the easiest path with a clear direction.

This book was such a great wake up call. I don’t know what my true calling is but after reading this, I am desperate to find it.

2. Do Over by Jon Acuff

In this career book, Acuff dives into 4 different types of transitions that one might face at work:

  • 1. Career ceiling – feeling stuck in your job
  • 2. Career Jump – changing companies or learning a new trade
  • 3. Career Bump – losing your job or being in a career that has very little advancement
  • 4. Career Opportunity – receiving and unexpected positive career opportunity

Whether you are happy in your current state or are in the middle of a transition, Acuff’s advice is relevant: we have the opportunity to invest in ourselves. You may have a good job, but you may not necessarily be called to do it and there is nothing wrong with that.

3. The Art of Work by Jeff Goins.

Jeff offers some really great advice when it comes to finding your passion and calling in life. There is no set formula but an evolving process and when we tune into our opportunities and accomplishments, we learn more about ourselves.

If you are wandering around trying to figure out life and what your passions are, give this book a read. Forget about status quo for one second and open yourself up to what you truly want.

These three books have really made an impression on me and I dare you to pick one up and read it…then move on to the next!

There’s More to Life Than Complacency

Our time on earth is very short. Complacency is not worth it. I have to believe that we all want and need to continually grow and learn new things and better ourselves.

I don’t wait for the calendar to figure out when I should live life

Gene Simmons

Listening to Bumblebae’s fun and happy lifestyle, reading books about finding your passion and now talking to my parents about retirement has me taking a deeper look at my life and how happy I am in it.

Tough Questions

Have you ever asked your parents or grandparents whether they thought their retirement was what they had imagined it to be? Harsh question but, did they even make it to retirement? If not, doesn’t this scare you?

My conversation with my parents made me think about how delicate and short life is. We shouldn’t have to wait for things to happen. Taking chances and doing the fun things we want to do shouldn’t have to be put on the back-burner. Why are we so scared of switching things up? What bad could actually happen if you took even just a year off and did what you’ve always dreamed of doing? Will one year set you back that far that you won’t be able to bounce back from it?

Why wait for retirement to do awesome things?

Being happy for ourselves, is this a millennial thing to say? Alas, when you are happy, you exude happiness. Everyone around you benefits.

Change is a Scary Thing. Complacency is Scarier

It always seems impossible until it is done

Nelson Mandela

One of the worst and common thoughts I’m sure people have is what if things don’t work out and that we will have just wasted our time failing?

Aren’t we just wasting our lives being complacent because it’s comfortable? What if it goes right? Complacency means being comfortable. Comfortability leads to being stuck in a rut and the wheel of the rat race will just keep on spinning until you realize how bored you’ve become.

If you’re stuck with keeping up with the Joneses and care too much about what other people think, are you really truly happy? These are my thoughts. If you’ve taken interest in the books I listed above, you probably have the same thoughts as me. Thanks!

Change is scary but as tough individuals, we can adapt to change. If it’s what you want, you’ve got this! I’ve got your back!

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Hey there, I'm Cristine (aka Nomadgirlfriend). I want to quit my job so I can travel more. I just need to figure out the digital world so I can start making money to feed my wanderlust with my digital nomad partner. I welcome you to join my on this journey of self discovery and new adventures!

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